Cold Coffee and Speed Limits: Encouragement for Mamas of Teens Coming Sept. 25!

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Cold Coffee and Speed Limits

A Letter to Mamas of Teens:

Why is it that there are thousands of books/blogs about raising babies, toddlers, and even school-aged kids, but when we get to the teenage range–poof! Everybody disappears from the blogosphere faster than my pre-pregnancy figure. Sure, there are plenty of scary clinical approaches out there, but this isn’t one of them. I’ve been a mama of teenagers for a while now, and though I’m no expert, I’ve been there. Actually, I’m still there.

I am with you, Mama.

The life of a mom raising teens is anything but easy. This book began with a blog: I wanted to chronicle my experience raising teenagers (two girls and a boy) not only for myself but to encourage others. In this book, I’ve included the most popular posts.

Some posts are funny—some are not. Some I wrote out of complete frustration and heartache. Others I wrote with joy and humor.

Besides being a mama of three, I’m a writer, an experimental cook, and an English professor. I’ve published in magazines and newspapers and internationally in Chicken Soup for the Soul books. I also wrote a novel, War Eagle Women.  I live in Texas (the land of Old Yeller) and I survive on large amounts of coffee and ungodly amounts of sugar. It’s really not healthy.

I refer to my son (now 16) as Mancub. He just LOVES IT. Ok not really, but he’s gotten used to it. Remember the Jungle Book? It’s Rudyard Kipling’s classic post-colonial story that sort of satires the motives of the British Empire as it claims to “civilize” India (and any other country it could get its hands on). All that aside, I think the jungle is the perfect metaphor to explain raising teens. Here’s why:

It’s scary. You can’t quite see your hand in front of your face, and your lantern is just not bright enough.

It’s dangerous. There are many things just around the corner wanting to hurt you (or your Mancub). Sometimes, your Mancub may even go looking for danger. Sometimes danger comes looking for him.

I use the term Watergirl for the female of the species. In the Jungle Book movie made famous by Disney, Mowgli thinks he knows EVERYTHING until he sees the girl who sings about fetching the water. After that, Mancub is just GONE. So that’s the collective term I use for teen girls in this book.

So yes, the jungle is a dangerous place. Mancub can’t be expected to look after himself just yet, even though he disagrees. But oh—the beauty of the jungle…it’s breathtaking if you take a moment to reflect upon it.

For now—welcome to the Jungle!

What people are saying about Cold Coffee and Speed Limits: Encouragement for Mamas

Cold Coffee and Speed Limits is an enchanting look into the journey that is mothering teenagers. Recipes, open letters, anecdotes and practical guides come together in this book to inspire and comfort readers. More than the perfect Mother’s Day gift, Cold Coffee speaks to teens, mothers, mothers-to-be, and everyone in-between. The raw realities of life are beautifully arranged to fulfill our need of obtaining important information rapidly and allowing the reader to slip into the beauty that is family life.” Stephanie L.

Cold Coffee and Speed Limits is a mix of advice, recipes and anecdotes that will have the most serious of readers laughing and taking notes. It made the chaos of parenting seem both magical and practical…I laughed, teared up (RIP Goliath), and jotted down a meatloaf recipe to try later. After reading this book I went and hugged my mom and told her I was sorry for putting her through teen hell and thanked her for loving me through it.” Gabbey S.

Tina shares her mother of teens experience to show others there is a light at the end of the tunnel and they aren’t traveling it alone. Joy K.

Even though I’m not a parent, I found myself tucking little nuggets of your writing away in my mind for when I do have kids of my own.  Kelsi A.

So many other parenting blogs/books just make me feel guilty. It’s already too late to do or not do what’s suggested, or I don’t have the means. Yours are helpful and flexible. They help me see that, though I’ve made mistakes, my kids are doing well, and I still have time to teach them a few things.-Bryony T.

With each laugh, worry, and reflection shared, Tina unveils the teenage years of parenting as a time to revel in the beauty of living despite the chaos of the jungle. Through her journey, she shows the weary mom how to focus on the moment at hand versus the entire collage. Slow down, enjoy the coffee and hug your babies: we are all going to make it with the help of a little comfort food! –Kari M.

Interview in East Texas’s “County Line” Magazine

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See the interview here:

War Eagle Women is on East Texas News Networks

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It’s always helpful when you’re publishing a book to get assistance promoting it…and free help from the local news is always appreciated. Since War Eagle Women was mentioned on USA Today a press release was written and sent out and several East Texas news stations have picked it up.


One thing I love about living here is that the media is quick to help out its citizens.

Thanks very much to UT Tyler, East Texas News 4 and KYTX CBS 19 for their help.


War Eagle Women link:

Woo hoo! My book War Eagle Women is mentioned on University of Texas at Tyler’s Website!

I’m so excited to see this press release on UT Tyler’s website!  See the link below for details.


Mommy’s Got a Migraine: A Real Fairy Tale


Once upon a time, there was a worn-out mommy. She was once a lovely skinny princess, but as it happened the king was broke so all she had in her dowry was a couple of scrawny goats and a snippy chihuahua. When the Handsome Prince from the far-away land of California showed up to bring the princess to his lovely castle, she was more than ready to go.  She truly loved the prince, and so she thought they would live happily ever after.   Nine months later the princess had a princess of her own, who was beautiful and kind and so smart–but first she had to grow up and somebody had the idea that Princess Mommy was the best one to help Little Princess do this. Princess Mommy was tired, grouchy, and she had a migraine, but still Little Princess still demanded to be fed, and changed, and held…and none of the spells the fairies tried worked. After sacking the worthless fairies, Princess Mommy figured it out on her own. Luckily, Princess Mommy loved that Little Princess to pieces, even though her old ball gowns didn’t fit over her royal stretch marks anymore and the Prince was also a sailor and had to be gone away from the castle a lot.

One of Princess Mommy’s  talents was baking princesses and POOF. As soon as Prince Sailor came back from leave, guess what? Princess Mommy had another princess!  Since Prince Daddy and Princess Mommy were too broke to afford servants, Princess Mommy had twice the amount of diapers to change and runny noses to wipe and fevers to tend to. Sometimes Mommy really needed some special Mommy Potion Juice that wasn’t sold in the dry kingdom, so she just had to settle for strong hot coffee and lots of magical Midol pills sold by the sorcerer. These magical pills helped Princess Mommy NOT turn into an evil witch form once a month.

A few years later, when the little princesses were a bit older, Princess Mommy’s talent kicked in again and she baked another baby. It was a Prince this time, and the whole kingdom rejoiced. The castle needed repairs and the goats ran away with the chihuahua, but the little royal family loved each other in spite of it all.

Then, the Prince Daddy got a better job in the kingdom of Texas so the family moved to the land of cowboys and giant steaks. They were able to buy a new castle and everyone rejoiced. Sometimes, Mommy still needed her magic blue pills so she didn’t turn into a witch, and the Prince Daddy learned this so he went to the Royal Sam’s Club, the biggest in the land, and stocked up on those magic pills, strong black coffee, and delicious chocolate cupcakes so rich they would make a lesser Princess Mommy cry.

And the whole family lived Happily Ever After.

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War Eagle Women Mentioned on USA Today: “Must-See Book Trailers”!


My Southern gothic novel, War Eagle Women, is mentioned on the USA Today’s website under “Must-See Book Trailers” by Robin Covington.

Must-reads: 'Best Kept Secrets,' 'Baby Love'; interview with Tina Coleman Bausinger

She writes:

There is something compelling about gripping stories told simply, and the trailer to War Eagle Women by Tina Coleman Bausinger is a perfect example of this. The story revolves around the stories of generations of women — their good and poor choices in life and love — as told to a young woman who hovers between life and death. The video is pared down to a haunting piano melody, stark imagery and an intriguing script.

Here’s the link to the article and the trailer.

Nothing in writing is done in isolation. The book trailer, entitled “Sam’s Story,” was written and directed by Konner Hudson, a fellow student at the school where I attended and now teach for. We met last summer on a China Immersion Trip sponsored by the school.

The piano music that’s featured is composed and performed by Jay Williams, a very talented composition major at UT Tyler as well. My daughters, Sarah and Jordanne Bausinger, also music education majors at UT Tyler,  recommended Jay for this and hooked us up.

They also were instrumental in acquiring one of the locations. In fact, part of the trailer was filmed in Braithwaite Hall, a small concert hall on campus. We received special permission from Dr. Thrasher, the head of the music program at UT Tyler.

And I can’t forget Kalloway Hudson, the lovely actress who plays Samantha. Such outstanding acting.

Sometimes, writing and promoting a novel can be harrowing, heart-attack-inducing, and stressful.

But other times, it can be what’s it’s meant to be: so much fun.

Don’t have your own copy? Here’s the link.